7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

5. Seek first to understand, and then to be understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood, this habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening.

Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and value for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent).

Most people are eager to talk and had and rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn. Listen, really listen, understand then to be understood—LISTEN.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is the most depressing day of the year for a single female. This day is only for couple/friends. But for those who are single & don’t have absolutely no Valentine, this day is traumatizing. A female expects to get love, feel love & love back on this day. They want to feel special & treasured by someone, anyone. They expect to get filled with Roses & Teddy Bears, Love Cards & Candy, Hugs & Kisses. Valentine’s Day should be a day where your Valentine/Boyfriend, etc. . . waste money on you & gets you something big & nice. It should be day that your Valentine makes you morning, day & night. This day should be filled with Romance & a bunch of other stuff. But ME, ummmm NOOO! Valentine’s Day is a messed up day. My valentine, well the one that would have been my Valentine is 6ft under right now. May he R.I.P. Any who today is a whatever day full of Drama & Fake people. Today is just like any other day but with more depression. It’s sad for me to see females with their mans, females getting filled with love, females getting gifts from here & there. It’s sad cause it just makes me miss Jair even more. It makes me wonder how my Valentine’s Day would have been if he was still here. It makes me remember last Valentine’s Day. I think any single female out there on this day is just out of it right now. I didn’t really bother looking for a Valentine; I didn’t really care if I got one. I ain’t tripping if my “crush” didn’t ask me to be his Valentines I really ain’t. ha. All I need to know is that I’m getting some today & that’s it. It’s funny how guys refer females to “TRICKS”. They say “maybe if you weren’t such a trick, you’d probably have a Valentines” that’s just cruel but funny, cause niggas if only ya’ll knew that intimacy makes a female feel loved & cared about. Maybe you’d stay quiet if ya’ll were in our shoes. CHOOSE THE RIGHT ON VALENTINE’S DAY ! ;)       

Student Success Statement

“You cannot do wrong and feel right. It is impossible.”

Ezra T. Benson

Reflection:

I think this statement isn’t true because I know people that have done many wrong things and they don’t feel bad at all. Sometimes people got to do what they got to do no matter if its right or wrong. I myself have done wrong things & I don’t feel bad at all because sometimes doing the wrong can help you out of a really sticky situation. 

1.       Control of your life

2.       Balance

3.       High Performance

So, in what quadrant are you spending most of your time? The key is to shift as much time as possible into Quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the prize and reach it.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

Student Success Statement

“Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force.”

Elaine Maxwell

Reflection:

This statement is crap to me; I don’t understand what it is trying to say. That’s my opinion.

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens Habit 1

(By Sean but modified)

Habit 1: Be Proactive.

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help your teen take control and responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings. Proactive people realize that the ball is in their court, that they are the captain of their own ship; that they are I control, control of their decisions, thoughts, choices, decisions, goals, actions, and priorities. Proactive people are self-starters; they don’t wait to be told what to do, they press forward with enthusiasm toward the achievement of their assignment, their duties, their responsibilities, their obligations. Choosing to do what is right is a proactive decision. Obey the rules. Obey the law. Obey the coach. Obey the school policies. Obey your parents. Obey with exactness, and great things will come to you. Be proactive and take the initiative.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT!!!

Student Success Statement

“Keep your eyes on the prize”

ANON

Reflection:

I think this statement is basically saying that if you set yourself to reach a goal, do it because it can bring you a lot in the future. It may be hard at the moment, but all hard work pays off. So don’t think of it being hard or impossible think of the prize that you’ll receive at the end of your hard work.